I think every man I’ve ever worked with has wondered, “Do I have a small penis?”
Even if you’re looking down there saying, “Damn I’m huge, this is great,” Not so fast, big boy! You might actually have an average erect penis. You may even be smaller than average.
In short, the perception you have of your own dick is probably wrong, and I’m here to make it right.
Why Do So Many Men Worry About Their Penis Length and Circumference?
Let’s be real: there’s a lot of pressure to have a larger penis, to be hard, to perform.
On top of that, men don’t often see other men’s penises. Especially not erect. We all know that saying, “he’s a grower, not a shower”, which means that a man’s flaccid penis may become surprisingly large when it is erect.
And then there are plenty of men who have a big penis when it is flaccid, but it doesn’t grow at all when it becomes erect. The truth is, penises are like fingerprints. Every penis is unique.
That said, you wouldn’t necessarily know that by watching porn. Porn stars are hired because of the size of their penises – it’s the TOP requirement as a male porn star to have a monster erection!
It’s not realistic to compare your dick to the ridiculously large penises you might see in porn. It’s not a fair comparison. It’s not even apples to apples, it’s more like … bananas versus genetically modified cucumbers.
What Size is the Average Penis?
The truth is, most men have average-length penises. (It’s the law of averages, man!) So how small is smaller than average?
The average size penis is between 4 ½ and 6 inches. This is a global average. If you’ve seen other statistics online, remember that those might be from a small population size. Maybe sex researchers only asked 18-year-old white men living in Indiana, which is often the case with certain sex research studies.
Other statistics claim to report penis size by country. Remember that a lot of these surveys are self-reported. The distinction between 30 men who happened to be online at any given moment who self-report their penis size… of course they’re going to add some millimeters or even inches to their penis size. No one is checking to ensure they’re not exaggerating their genitals!
News flash: white guys in a 1960s Indiana college town does not represent everyone’s erect penis length.
Reliable and trustworthy researchers control how each penis is measured to make sure that they’re measuring all of them the exact same way (which, by the way, is from the base of the penis, along the bottom size of the penis, to the tip.) Then they calculate the average penis size.
Does Size Matter? What Women Want During Sexual Intercourse
Men are often worried that women won’t like their erect penis length, especially if they have a smaller penis. Here are some things to keep in mind.
Good news: a Large Penis is not always better for sexual satisfaction.
This myth continues to prevail, but women do not always want big honkin’ large penises. Huge penises can actually cause your sexual partner discomfort.
One amazing study shows that women prefer average-sized penises. When researchers asked women what size joystick they would prefer their partners to have, they only selected a larger-than-average penis for a one night stand.
For everything else, including for their boyfriends and long-term partners, the woman chose average-sized penises.
Why might that be?
Women know that if they’re going to be having sex with you, they want it to feel good! They don’t want to feel stressed out over your penile size! They don’t want to have to struggle to fit a huge erect penis into their body. They just want it to feel good. Four-and-a-half to 6 inches and beyond (on both sides of that range) can feel VERY pleasurable inside a woman during intercourse
Girth matters more than penile length.
Width, circumference, or the way a penis is measured around itself, is way more of an indication of how much pleasure she’s going to get from that penis.
Girth matters more … if you’re measuring penile size at all. Why does girth matter more? Consider how a vagina is laid out. At the first 1- to 2-inches inside the entrance of the vagina are the vast majority of nerve endings that exist inside a woman’s body. That’s why fingering (and the come-hither motion) that triggers a g-spot orgasm and leads to squirting, is so pleasurable. Big pleasure takes only about two or three inches!
That’s where you find the majority of the nerve endings inside the vagina! Long penile length is more likely to hit the cervix, which is the end of the cul-de-sac. Back here, the vagina no longer gives a whole lot of pleasure, and in fact, things can start to get painful back here at the end of the street.
Clearly, you can understand the preference for wider, not longer.
Having a impressive penis length isn’t always better – it might end up causing your partner pain and discomfort. In fact, she might be less likely to reach orgasm from a bigger penis than she is going to from a shorter dick that happens to be girthier than average.
All this information is good for any man to have, and I hope you found something empowering or interesting or educational in this tidbit. But what can you actually do with this information?
How to Maximize Her Pleasure Through Penetration
Listen up: the size of your penis matters way way way less than you think it does when it comes to being an incredible lover and the pinnacle of masculinity.
A man that I used to date had a smaller-than-average penis. It was smaller than average in both length and girth. It didn’t matter. We had the best sex of my life.
It wasn’t even about the “motion of the ocean” – there’s no magic way to move or thrust to make small penises more pleasurable. It has nothing to do with that.
Instead, this man made love to me with every cell of his body. He came up with these crazy awesome ideas of what to do in bed that were mind-blowing.
For example, we used to have sex to music. We would TYPICALLY pick songs that you’d associate with sex, but this one time he put on Michael Jackson’s Thriller.
While Thriller may be one of the greatest albums of all time, it is not baby-making music by any measure.It didn’t matter! The way he had sex with me changed with every song that was on the album. It was like being at an amusement park or a Baskin Robbins where we got to sample ALL THE FLAVORS! It was super fun, and VERY pleasurable.
Creativity, spunk, enthusiasm: These things matter more than what’s in your pants. My ex was so creative in the sack that the size of his penis never even occurred to me as a potential barrier to pleasure. He used to push things off the table and lay me down on it and perform oral sex with me and pleasure my whole body.
He was with his hands and great with his mouth.
He knew how to give me pleasure, make me orgasm, and take care of my sexual needs. His penis size was the last thing on my mind.
At the same time, I’ve had sex with men who had big penises and didn’t even try. They were like “yep… this is what I got. Have fun, go to town.”
Can you see the difference?
Why having a large penis or being in the “normal range” doesn’t actually matter? I would rather have sex with a man who has a small penis who gave a shit about my pleasure, instead of a well-endowed man who felt like his big dick was God’s gift to women. That’s the honest truth.
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