From Insecurity to Strength: How to Attract More Love Into Your Life

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Are you living in a soupy feeling of worthiness and validation right now? Are you basking in the sunny rays of self-esteem and positive energy? 

No? 

The amount of love we feel in any given moment colors our entire experience.

— and our sense of our own value. From our first breakup to 20 years with our soul mate, we spend so much energy chasing after true love. We struggle through flaws, negative thoughts, negative self-talk, and our inner critic. 

If you hate yourself or are dealing with insecurity, you’re probably not having a positive day, or week, or year. You beat yourself up with comparisons, push best friends and new people away, and feel constantly anxious that you’ll be a disappointment to others.

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And feeling unworthy is the worst.

It’s one of the crappiest feelings on the planet. Even if you’re with the right partner, unconditional love can feel complicated. How are you supposed to balance your own needs with your partner’s needs? How can you approach tough conversations with compassion and forgiveness? What’s the best way to achieve more clarity, strength, positive energy, resilience, and EMPATHY in your life?

This might sound counterintuitive at first, but the relationship we have with ourselves is the only relationship we have. Every other relationship in our lives is a reflection of the real love we have for ourselves. If our inner critic says we’re dumb, unattractive, boring, or not worthy, we’re going to have a hard time accepting love from others. It’s straight up not going to work. That’s like telling everyone you hate pizza and then wondering why no one is offering you any pepperoni slices. 

Why does this matter? And how can this help you have a better sex life?

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Ever worry about showing weakness or being a disappointment to your partner, whether your penis is the right size, whether you’ll last long enough, or whether she’ll still be into you next week? Then you, my friend, are in need of some SELF LOVIN’. And I’m not talking about wanking off (this time), but the all-encompassing, life-affirming, uplifting, magic power of loving YOU. 

Self-Love Is Not Just Some Mumbo-Jumbo Hippie Crap. It’s Hard Work, and the Only Way to Have Healthy Relationships & a Positive Love Life.

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You could be with the most loving human on the planet and STILL not feel abundant in love if you let negative thoughts and insecurities get in the way of your self-love mindset.

Even if you’re surrounded by friends, you could STILL deal with anxiety about your imperfections.

Relationships aren’t complicated! We keep getting mired in interpersonal melodramas and misunderstandings, but there IS a way to cut through all the storm clouds. 

Love is abundant: it’s all around us and lives inside us. Pouring a cup of love is just as easy as uncorking the bottle. 

If you’re struggling with anxiety in the bedroom — if you’re worried that you’re not good enough to pleasure your woman, or you don’t even know where to start, I want you to come talk to me. I’ve worked with thousands of men just like you who need a BIG boost of confidence in the sack so they can show the hell UP for their women. You are not anxiety. You are love, and I can help you tap into that crazy beautiful ABUNDANT reserve of love that is hiding in plain sight. 

You Can’t Be In Love if You Don’t Even KNOW Yourself! 

How are you supposed to love yourself if you have no self-awareness? 

You might be a super handsome firefighter with glimmering biceps, or an IT worker who can save entire office buildings from digital calamity. You might be a father, husband, brother, blues-style guitarist, or expert window installer. But this is all a very small, thimble-sized part of who you are and what you bring to the world. 

I partnered up with the School of Life to for the How To Love Me Guide … 22 pages of in-depth questions that will help you get to know yourself better. What is your unique way of expressing? What do you bring to the world? When do you feel sexiest? What do you long for most in this world? What are your most important accomplishments as a human being? This guide will help you dive into your own deep-end and hush your inner critic, whether your desires are causing you emotional peace or tornadic upheaval, how comfortable you feel embracing your desires, and which aspects of your life bring you JOY and affirmation.  

Click here to get your own copy of the How to Love Me Guide from School of Life Design. My goal is to help you realize that no matter where you are in your life, you can feel love right here, right now. 

Life Is Too Short To Live It Without Real Love 

If you’re looking for more than what a 22-page guide can give you — if you’re looking for a total revamp of your sex life from a relationship expert, for passion, for confidence, for stamina, for greatness in bed — Come When You Want is my step-by-step guide to lasting longer in bed, experiencing ejaculatory control, and developing unshakable confidence. It delivers many of the same tools I use in one on one coaching but in a video format you can access from your phone or computer. Check it out! The first step to an amazing sex life is to learn, to dive in, and to discover how to take control.

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