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Introduce Kink Into Your Sex Life

So you have a kink. First of all, congratulations. Sometimes allowing ourselves to admit we have a sexual curiosity can be difficult. But you’re already doing it! Today I’m going to tell you how to get your partner to do

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Why Straight Men Love Pegging

Why Straight Men Love Pegging

More and more straight men are trying out anal play and pegging – and for the most part, their female lovers are strapping on their dildos with enthusiasm. That’s right – “pegging” is when a man receives a strap-on or

The Truth About Sexual Touching

How to Touch a Woman to Turn Her On

Let’s face it: there’s a right way and a wrong way to stimulate a woman to prepare her for intercourse. Thing is, many men approach foreplay in a way that, well, doesn’t build arousal for their partner. This is such

One common side effect of curing Premature Ejaculation

One Common Side Effect of Curing Premature Ejaculation

If you’re working on curing your premature ejaculation (PE) and suddenly symptoms of erectile dysfunction (ED) start cropping up during intercourse… what do you do, what the hell is going on, and how can you fix it?Fear not! I am

My Favorite Threeway (& How to Have A Threesome)

While I was at the studio the other day I had the JUICIEST flashback to an MMF experience I once had. It was so good, I just had to share it with you: The Devil’s Threeway. The Devil’s Threeway is

Does Your Partner Believe These Myths About Anal Sex?

Today, let’s talk about anal sex, or, most commonly known as “anal penetration” or “butt stuff.” BUTT STUFF!! Butt stuff, anal sex, anal play, whatever you want to call it, has become more popular in the past 20 to 30

The Female Sex Organ Nobody’s Talking About

Today I’m here to blow the top off a long-standing secret of the female anatomy. As much as you THINK you know about vaginas and the elusive female orgasm, I can guarantee you didn’t know this part of the clitoris.

Why Women Fake Orgasms: Performance Anxiety in Women

Guess what, gentlemen! You are not the only ones who suffer from performance anxiety. When it comes to anxiety and sexual activity, few people escape. All of us – male, female, and people who identify as neither and both –

How Often Should You Masturbate?

I’ve worked with clients who feel guilt over “too much masturbation”. They ask me, “Do I masturbate too much?” Believe it or not, frequent masturbation can help you have a better sex life. Just like Goldilocks, there is a magic

Why You’re Not Getting Responses on Dating Apps

According to the Pew Research Center, 59% of Americans think dating apps are a good way to meet someone, and more and more people sign up every day. But if you’re not getting any responses, you might think, “Do dating

The Oral Report: Karen Yates, Tantric Sex, Super Tasty

  Caitlin:                    Hey, Caitlin. Caitlin:                    Hi, Caitlin. Caitlin:                    How’s it going? Caitlin:                    Good. How are you? Caitlin:                    I am excellent. I am so excited today. Caitlin:                    Me too, because… Caitlin:                    Because we have with us a very special guest. Karen

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How to Make a Woman Squirt

There are a lot of myths around squirting. Some women believe they don’t have the ability to squirt because it’s never happened to them before. Some people aren’t sure what the fluid is that squirts. Is it pee? Something else?

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Does Penis Size Matter?

It’s an age-old question that you may have been wondering since the first time you had sexual intercourse: what if you have a smaller-than-average penis? Do women have a preference?   In my years of sex and relationship coaching, I’ve

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Delayed Ejaculation: Causes, Cures, and Considerations

When you can’t reach orgasm when you’re ready to – even after an intense amount of sexual stimulation – it can cause confusion, misunderstanding, and pain in a relationship. Your partner might think that you’re not attracted to them, or

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How to Cure Premature Ejaculation in 2 Weeks

Do you want to be able to give your partner orgasms through penetrative sex? Do you want to enjoy mind-blowing, deeply satisfying sex for both you and your partner? (Who doesn’t?!) This one simple technique is crucial for ending premature

Use Visualizations to Last Longer in Bed

Do you experience anxiety about sex because of premature ejaculation? When you want to last longer in bed, you need a mental toolbox that can help you do that. Each man is a little bit different, so the more tools

How Do Porn Stars Last So Long in Bed?

Coming too early can be frustrating. It can make it difficult to satisfy your partner. But there is ONE secret to a better sex life that’s really quite simple. This one secret can not only help you delay ejaculation (and

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I burned my books

Last night I held a ceremony in my backyard. I started by honoring the space and setting an intention. And then I slowly and methodically burned hundreds of pages of notes that I took while getting my master’s degree and

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Sex Advice Column: Condoms are uncomfortable

I find condoms to be a problem. They are itchy around my penis and skin. Is there other methods of safe sex? I have been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months and she is the first person I ever

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Brush Yourself Off

We all fall short of our own expectations sometimes. Whether we expect ourselves to maintain a strict exercise routine or we demand a high level of emotional control at all times, we are human. We mess up. We make mistakes.

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Gratitude Journal

If you want to profoundly change your relationship, there are remarkably simple things you can do every day that will add up over time. One with enormous impact is a daily gratitude journal. It also happens to double as the

Living as if today was your last

What would you do today if you knew it was your last day on earth? This scary thought exercise is a key part in my favorite wake-up ritual (borrowed from here). The idea is that every morning after you’ve reflected

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Quote: Love as Inheritance

Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without

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Three Great Relationship Evils

A very wise woman once told me there are three great evils in the world: greed, avoidance, and chaos. Now, these simple terms can hardly summarize the true meaning of the forces behind them, but they can stand in for

Sex and House Guests

When is it appropriate to have sex when you’re hosting people? What about when you’re the one being hosted? Is it ever appropriate to have sex when you’re sharing a roof with friends or family? Here are some things to