Are You Afraid of Initiating Sex?

Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid to Ask a Woman If She Wants to Have Sex

We have been lied to.

There’s one lie in particular that’s wreaking havoc on your sex life, especially if you’re a man who deals with sexual performance anxiety.

Whether you feel occasional anxiety around wanting to please her and make her feel good, or debilitating anxiety that makes you want to quit sex forever, this lie is bombing your confidence in bed — and ruining your sexual experience.

This one lie has caused more damage and more pain than probably any other lie related to intimacy and intercourse.

And there are some pretty big lies related to sexual activity! Like “you can get STIs from a toilet seat” or the lie that “masturbating causes your palms to get hairy” or “masturbating will make you go blind” … there’s lots of crap out there that just isn’t true.

Today I’m going to bash this lie to pieces. I’m about to share something with you that you need to know if you’re going to have a great sex life.

**drum roll please**

Women Enjoy Sex. A Lot.

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(ohmygodnowayIcan’tbeleiveshejustsaidthat!)

YAH!

In fact, women love sex.

Women experience sexual desire and arousal. Some women think about having sex with you on the first date! Why?

Because women love sex.

The lie you have been told is that women don’t derive enjoyment from sex, that women don’t like sex, and that women don’t want to have sex with you. That’s the lie we’ve been told over and over and over and over again and some of you have really believed it.

In fact, this lie is so prevalent that you’re nodding your head right now and saying “women really don’t want to have sex with me.”

YOU’RE WRONG!

All of us grew up believing that men enjoy dirty talk, spontaneity, and steamy sexual encounters, and women don’t. That men want to have a sexual relationship with women, and women don’t want to have sex with men. Bullshit!

Women enjoy sex. I enjoy sex, all my girlfriends enjoy sex, I’m pretty sure my mom enjoys sex, pretty sure all the women I’ve ever met and all the women YOU’VE ever met … at the end of the day…. ENJOY SEX!

Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid to Ask a Woman If She Wants to Have Sex

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Now don’t get me wrong. Not every woman enjoys sex with every man. That’s not the case.

I’m not saying that all women want to have sex with you. I’m saying that some of them do.

And you boldly believing the lie that women do not want to have sex with you is what is keeping you home at night, is what is preventing you from reaching over in bed and making the first move with your partner, and is what is preventing you from initiating sexual activity.

You believing this lie is how you end up spending money on shit you don’t use, how you end up buying the impressive car, or the fancy suit or whatever you’ve been trying to do to get the girl. Because you don’t think she wants to have sex with you because of who you are.

Guys, you don’t need the expensive cologne. You don’t need the magic tricks by the sexperts, or the kama sutra positions or the fat wallet. Women don’t need convincing. God gave us multiple orgasms! We’re into it! All you need to be? Yourself.

Sexual Performance Anxiety and the Belief that Women Don’t Love Sex

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Here’s the truth: both women and men are told that women don’t enjoy sex. (In fact, women seem to think that loving intimacy and sexual sexual activity is cause for embarrassment. It’s not.)

This gives men anxiety because they’re thinking “I want to have sex with this woman but she doesn’t enjoy penetration, so I have to somehow convince her into it and that I’m not a bad guy and that I’m not a creep and that I’m not a rapist, but how am I ever going to have sex with her because she doesn’t want it and I do?” Endless racing thoughts. Such a cause of performance anxiety.

This belief is equally damaging to women. On the other side, women who enjoy sex (which is the majority of us) think “oh crap! I enjoy dick! That makes me unusual or abnormal! What am I supposed to do? I must be a freak.” And then they experience shame, and shame is a major cause of sexual difficulties.

In fact, I believe that shame is partly to blame for the fact that women don’t have more orgasms. This lie is doing a lot of damage.

It’s Time to Change The Narrative.

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You need to decide for yourself what is true. Ask women in your life. Look for examples on TV of women enjoying sex or talking about sex. Notice the story in your head when you think “I’d really like to approach that pretty girl but nah, she probably doesn’t want to have sex with me.”

Check yourself when you think, “I’d love to initiate sex in my long term relationship, but she probably won’t be into it.”

Become conscious of these kind of thoughts, and you’ll start to notice them and turn them around.

Why This Myth Is So Damaging To Your Sex Life

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I help a lot of men as a private one-on-one coach on a regular basis to help them overcome performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, be more confident, and give women orgasms. All the men I’ve worked with have had this belief: that women don’t want them, and women don’t want to have sex with them.

These myths have no evidence to support them.

These are lies our schoolteachers told us, that our parents told us, that the kids on the playground told us … it’s just lies that are perpetuated by movies, television, the media, by the pickup artists… and confused people everywhere.

Curing premature ejaculation, learning to last longer in bed, being confident in bed, curing erectile dysfunction, being able to have simultaneous orgasms with your partner, being able to restore sex in a long term relationship… all of these things that people prescribe pills for, that people go to therapy for, that people cry themselves to sleep because they think there’s something wrong and broken with them… all because of some nonsense we were told and spent our whole life believing.

Just like when you turn on a lightbulb, when you reveal the truth and you can see behind the lie, something CLICKS in your brain and you understand that there’s a better way.

Boost Confidence, Improve Your Relationships, and End Performance Anxiety.

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That’s why I developed the Come When You Want method. This is my MASTERCLASS designed to help men overcome premature ejaculation, but some of the things I teach in this online course are applicable to men who just want to become more confident lovers – and to check their existing beliefs that could be harming their sex life.

Come When You Want is for men who want to have better relationships with their bodies, whether they’re single or in a long term relationship.

It’s for men who want to boost sexual performance, who want to approach intimacy with confidence. I built this course after years of working one-on-one with men and having a 98% success rate of ending premature ejaculation within 90 days.

I’ve worked with women, I’ve worked with erectile dysfunction, I’ve worked with sexual performance anxiety, and with both single and married men, but I developed this course specifically for men who want to last longer in bed and develop confidence in a snap. So if you believed this myth that women don’t want to have sex, and if you recognize the power of changing that narrative in your head, than go check out the course by clicking here.

There’s One More Thing I Want You To Understand.

Understand that you are an attractive human being. You are a person who people want to have sex with. I don’t care how big, hairy, pimply, or hairless you are!

You deserve to have an awesome sex life.

And some women will enjoy having sex with you. It’s not rocket science, you are worth it! If you don’t feel this way, I want you to come talk to me. Apply to work one-on-one with me today so we can work together to boost your confidence and to make your sex life better than ever.

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